I remember declaring God as my husband I think in 2013 when I read Isaiah 54:5
For thy Maker is thine husband: The Lord of hosts is His name; and thy Redeemer the Holy One of Israel; The God of the whole earth shall he be called.
From age 22 to 24, I had a boyfriend, but there was only so much responsibility I could put on him because he was not my husband. If you have a boyfriend but you are not married, you are single (legally speaking). There will be many unfulfilled areas in your life that he cannot meet or may not feel obligated to meet.
My boyfriend and I broke up 2012 or 2013 or something like that lol, and I was all alone again. Only this time I knew Jesus, so I wasn’t really alone; God stood in as my husband. I want to share with you the roles He played in my life and how you can also rely on God as a single woman.
Protector
First and foremost, God was my protector. I’m a little ashamed to say this but I was afraid of the dark (I was grown and afraid smh). I talk more about this in my book Single, Sick, and Sexless. I feared what could happen while I was asleep (you know break-ins, bad people, fires). However, the only way I could get any real sleep at night was in pitch dark—lights and the TV off. I took comfort in knowing that God never sleeps. He was always near and watching over me to protect me from my night fears. Thankfully, I am over this now, but I talk more about this in my book- Single, Sick, and Sexless. Another example of His protection was when I got in a bad car accident in 2013; He shielded me, and I walked away unscathed. FYI, I was living in a city all by myself without family. I had recently graduated at the University of North Florida.
Mechanic
God was my mechanic. Many women depend on men for assistance with car issues and I am one of them. I took really good (basic) care of my car but unfortunately, there were many things I did not know about my car. Like what is a transmission?? I prayed over my car often, declaring that it was blessed and would last me a very long time. I’m still driving Nugget til this day. She (my car) has not been a burden to have; she requires little maintenance. I know God honored my prayers and has been watching over her all these years.
My Right-Hand Man
One of the reasons why we love relationships is because we do not want to have to figure out everything on our own- grocery shopping, the kids, housework, figuring out dinner. I included God in every part of my life. I would say out loud in my little apartment “God help me find my keys.” Or at the store, I teamed up with Him to make decisions- “God should I get this or that?” Don’t you hate when you can’t make up your mind about something? Especially, if you are alone. I’m glad God was always there to make everything work out for me perfectly.
Confidant and Friend
I’m afraid I have bad news, girl. There’s a catch to all of this. God wants you to stay sexually pure until you marry the man He provides for you. I say “bad news” but really purity is a blessing. It protects you from drama and spiritual ties with the wrong people. Staying a virgin or celibate is not easy by any means, but guess what? You can be honest with God. Talk to Him when you are struggling and do not hide from Him when you mess up. Whatever you do, keep Him included. He will keep you strong. And He will convict you when you mess up which prevents you from going deeper into sin. He will also give you what you need to succeed, such as books and people who can help you. He will never give up on you, so don’t give up on him. Seek purity.
He that covereth his sin shall not prosper, but whoso confesseth and renounces [his sin] will find mercy. Proverbs 28:13
Gems, you may be alone, but you do not have to be lonely. God wants to expand into every area of your life. He wants to stand in the gap between singleness and marriage for you.
To make God your husband, simply declare “You are my husband” according to Isaiah 54:5 and begin to include him in every part of your life. Start by saying “Good Morning God” every morning. Let Him be the first thing you think about when you open your eyes and the last thing you think about at night.
“Goodnight God”.
Love you Gem, Shawandie
G.E.M.S- Godly Women Enjoying the Magnificence of Singleness