I want to share with you how I knew my husband was the one for me. Then I would love to hear how you knew your husband was the one or how you knew that someone was not the one.
After breaking up with my ex-boyfriend, it was just me and God. I fell in love so hard with God as a single woman and depended on Him for everything. I grew in my intimacy with Him and allowed Him to purge certain things out of my life. He also taught me a lot about marriage.
I’ll never forget the day I said to God “I’m ready.” It was during my special time with God that I felt I was ready to be in a relationship with a man again. A couple months later, I met my husband at work. We were engaged two months later. I gave hubby a hard time at first but eventually I said yes to marrying him after I had an epiphany that he was the one I would spend the rest of my life with.
I had no doubts I wanted to marry him based on these 6 signs:
1) He wanted me
My husband stopped at nothing to show me he wanted me. I didn’t fight to make him want me. I didn’t even give him my phone number. He got it from someone else—a mutual co-worker. That’s how committed he was.
Disclaimer: Please make sure the person pursuing you is not obsessive. My husband wanting me was one of the smallest signs that he was the one. You want to make sure you look for other signs of whether you are dealing with someone legitimate, or an imposter.
2) He was a gentleman
Without being asked he opened doors for me, walked me to my car, and offered to carry my things if I had anything in my hand. Being accustomed to mediocre, I did not react to these gestures very well. I didn’t know how to let a man, other than my father, open doors for me. I was appalled by his chivalry and respect towards me as a woman.
3) He respected my body
May I confess that I didn’t boldly tell my husband that I was celibate? I mean eventually I told him, but I was scared to tell him that I wanted to wait until marriage to have sex. His quick response was “that’s good, I’ll be celibate with you.” He never made remarks about my body, not even to tell me that he thought I was sexy or attractive, until we got closer to marriage. This is why it’s important to get to know and love yourself, so you don’t have to seek affirmation from prospects.
4) He kept his promises
This is so important when it comes to dating! Is he calling when he says he’s going to call? Does he show up when he says he will? A man only has one or two times to make me disappointed before it’s a wrap. A good man will try to be impressive for you and if he doesn’t care about impressing you with his commitments, that’s a bad sign. When my husband courted me, he called every night like clockwork and never had me wondering.
5) He let me be myself
And he made me promise that I would never change. He wanted me to remain the same church lovin’, quirky, and wise young lady who he first met. I promised him I wouldn’t change. He came to church with me, we did personal bible studies together, and he adapted to my family that had a different culture than what he was accustomed to. He didn’t try to change me. I loved that.
6) Last but not least, God told me
I sought God to hear what He thought about our growing relationship. I was nervous about saying “yes” to marriage. After praying and fasting, God answered me very clearly, “remember what you prayed for.” I prayed for an imperfect man who needed Godly accountability. My husband definitely wasn’t perfect but it was becoming clear to me that he was perfect for me. When God spoke, it was everything I needed to know. It was the cherry on top that I needed to say “yes”.
How did you know to marry your husband? Or how did you know you needed to let someone go?
Do you know there are sure signs to look for to know if a man is not the one?